You should accept the fact that there is always somebody around that is much more successful than you, more intelligent, richer, stronger, and smarter, look better, wiser, nicer, younger or older and even more ambitious than you.
First of all you should accept the fact that this is not only a theory. The better-then-you guys are not somewhere else. They are here. Inside your working place. Within your building. Actually you might share your room with them. They fight against you. And many times they win. Now Deal With It!
The sooner you will accept this fact the better. It would allow you to concentrate less in comparisons and more in actions. It will let you work for putting the ball inside the basket instead of getting impressed of and watching how tall the other player are. You should act most of the day and think during the rest of it. You should NOT look too much at others advantages but only for the purpose of learning how to better deal with them, join them, take them on or fight them. This purpose is the only good reason for you to look at the successful lucky guys and estimate their few, if at all, weaknesses. You should research their advantages in order to find the best way for accessing their systems, in order to work with or against them. Both (with / against) are fine.
In fact, knowing that you are not one of those successful guys means you might get there and achieve your goals below the radar. And the later you are recognized as a winner the better. Working below the radar is something the rich, successful, tall guys cannot do. They are too rich, too handsome, too nice, too winners. Of course you cannot stay below the radar for long. It is impossible to achieve your challenges and still staying invisible. Please remember one important thing: Staying below the radar is an advantage but not a target or destiny.
I know many trainers as well as priests ask you to wake up early in the morning, saying "I'm a winner, I'm successful"! Well, you may say that but please try not to forget that many of your competitors are even more winners, beautiful and successful than you.
Good reputation helps. Too good image sometimes harms.
2 comments:
Your article is based on the biggest misconception ever.
People, who have more money than me, are not necessarily richer than me.
People, who are younger and more attractive than me, are not necessarily happier than me.
People, who are more intellectual than me, are not necessarily better than me.
People should not desire to compare themselves to others in the first place. You should be and do whatever your inner voice tells you; whatever makes you happy and gives you the drive to get up in the morning with a smile on your face, even if it means not making much money and not being attractive.
Only then will you feel more successful and better than others.
I suggest that you visit my site and read the article about happiness.
I wish you true happiness!
Edna Maimon
www.my-ambitions.com
Edna dear,
This article is not about happiness or love. It is about success. The way some (if not most) of the people measure success is by "position", "status" and "wealthiness". I am speaking for their wishes for those things but at the same time I am ready to hear your voice regarding happiness and love the way you see them and interpretive them.
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